"In over my head"

Jun. 22nd, 2017 12:15 am
rosefox: Steven's three guardians all ruffle his hair together as he grins (parenting)
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Dear fellow caregivers for toddlers: I would love advice on two distinct things.

1) What makes a good potty? The number of variations is overwhelming. We want something pretty simple, I think: looks like a toilet, no branded characters, doesn't play music, sits on the floor, is basically a bucket with a seat. In the more distant future we'll need one that folds up or goes over the toilet seat or something, for when we're on the road, but right now this is just for Kit to examine and contemplate and get used to the idea of.

2) Like most 18-month-olds, Kit is full of energy. Unlike most 18-month-olds, Kit can barely walk unassisted and can't run or jump. They've only just started climbing around on the most low-level playground equipment and are very uncertain; they can get up five steps to the top of the baby slide but haven't yet sorted out how to slide down it. When they can't burn off all that energy, they get very agitated and fussy. How do we help them get something like vigorous exercise on the weekends? So far my only idea is to take their walker wagon to the park so they can toddle along at a fairly fast clip for longer distances than our apartment allows—there's a good smoothly paved straightaway there—but that's a pain because the sidewalk between here and there is very uneven and narrow, so I'd have to figure out some way to carry the (heavy, bulky, non-folding) wagon while pushing Kit in the stroller, and that may surpass my own physical limitations. Maybe a lightweight folding medical-style walker? Is that a ridiculous expense for a kid who probably won't need it anymore by the end of the summer? And what do we do when it's not park weather? The nearest real play space for kids is the Brooklyn Children's Museum and it's kind of a haul from here—two buses, and you have to fold the stroller on the bus. They can only crawl around our apartment for so long.

EDIT: We did have a great dance party to the B-52s on Sunday—their pure sincerity is a perfect match for toddler sincerity, plus a good beat—so I should remember that's an option for indoor days. Friends on Twitter and elsewhere also suggested walking while holding Kit's hands/arms; playing follow-the-leader movement games ("Stretch WAAAAAY up high! Now bend WAAAAAY down low!") or doing movement to songs; setting up a tumbling mat and big foam blocks to climb on if we can get some that fit Kit's room (need to measure the open floor space); getting a cheap flimsy lightweight doll stroller to use as a walker in the park.

I'd really appreciate any suggestions on either or both fronts!

News and such...

Jun. 20th, 2017 09:42 pm
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Silver Moon: A Wolves of Wolf's Point Novel, is back in print! As noted previously, there are some changes from the original edition: new cover, new subtitle, character name change, the new version is longer and so forth. The story has not been changed nor have the main characters. It's available in all ebook formats. In print, it's available from
Indie bookstores and libraries can order it through Ingram. I'm working toward selling it directly via the Queen of Swords Press website, but we're not there yet.

Speaking of Queen of Swords Press, I just got an acceptance from the Twin Cities Book Festival for October so be sure and look for us there. I'll also have print copies of Silver Moon and Out of This World next week (6/27) at the Queer Voice Pride Month Reading and Book Fair at the Minneapolis Central Library.


Our Pride Month StoryBundle is still chugging along and we've raised nearly $1000 for Rainbow Railroad so far! 9 more days to go.

Other than this, life is a bit of mixed bag. Mystery Foot Pain turns out to be arthritis, which is very annoying. I'm nursing things along but will have to skip going to Pride because I need to get everything settled down before Helsinki, etc. The current round of house projects have wrapped up so now we're on to planning the next ones. I have some fabulous friends, and there we have it. Off to bed now in hopes of getting a decent night's sleep/

3 Good Things

Jun. 15th, 2017 08:26 pm
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1. I went to parkour class tonight for the first time in several months, and had an awesome time. \o/

1a. So did my friend M- from work - her very first parkour class ever. ("Thanks so much for the invite! A little bloody but so fun!")

2. Last week I paid off the last of my student loans.

3. We have sugar snap pea plants growing up our back porch railings, and one has almost reached the top.
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Nivair Gabriel and I did some brainstorming for a Sirens Con round table called "Kissing the Witch: Fantasy Women as Lovers" and we just heard that it's been accepted! I'm the official moderator, but Nivair definitely gets half the credit, especially since if she hadn't poked me about doing programming the night before proposals were due, I wouldn't have done anything. 

And I got preliminary programming assignments for Worldcon 75 in Helsinki!
This may be subject to change, of course.

Pronouns, who needs gender pronouns?
Wednesday 17:00 - 18:00, 102 (Messukeskus)
Lately in SFF, as well as in the real world, the use of gender pronouns have become problematical when referring to trans and intersex people and many writers have struggled to find ways--using "they", using feminine pronouns as the default, inventing pronouns.  However, there are many languages, including Finnish and Turkish, that do not come with gender pronouns, so does not have this mainly indo-european language-specific issue.  What can SF writers learn from native speakers of languages that just don't DO gender?
Cenk Gokce (M), Johanna Sinisalo, Catherine Lundoff, Kelvin Jackson, John Chu


LGBTQ+ Speculative Fiction Goes Worldwide

Friday 11:00 - 12:00, 101a&b (Messukeskus)
Panel discussion on gay, lesbian, bisexual. transgender and queer representation international works of speculative fiction.
Catherine Lundoff, Laura Lam, Keffy R.M Kehrli, Kat Kourbeti (M)


Older women in genre fiction

Saturday 10:00 - 11:00, 101c (Messukeskus)
Genre fiction has tons of grizzled soldiers and space captains in their 40s and 50s, but where are the ladies at? Young Adult has its share of teenage heroines, but where are the adult women?
Catherine Lundoff (M), Delia Sherman, Liisa Rantalaiho, Helena

More stuff on the horizon, as usual.



Hamburg, week 1

Jun. 12th, 2017 09:03 pm
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The weather is, as expected, alternately pleasant and raining. Yesterday it was even warm enough for me to wear shorts and a t-shirt and sunny enough to *get sunburned.* Today it was 65 and cloudy with occasional sprinkles.

I've seen a lot of things in Hamburg already. There are still museums I'd like to get to before I go. Several things I'm able to cross off my list because of the Goethe Institute's culture program (or will be later). On Saturday I took a day trip to Lübeck with 4 people from my class, which was really nice. We saw most of the Altstadt and got some cool pictures. A+ would go back again.

Hamburg is ok. It doesn't have the pull that Berlin does, but I feel like it's a place I could be for a little while (ie if I decide to 1) work on a PhD 1a) in Germany 2) in Hamburg). The feeling is different than Berlin, likely because it's a port city. (The largest port in Germany, even.) Lübeck, despite being small, all of 225k residents, felt nice, though. It was super adorable in the Altstadt. It also seems fairly cheap to rent there. (Though at the rate it seems to be growing, from the quick google I did to get the population, that might not last long.)

My class is going ok. The group is weird; 5 of them are returning from previous months and already know each other, and the other 6 of us are all newcomers. It's awkward and cliquish. But it's ok; several others among the newcomers are nice, and we (as I mentioned) traveled together. I'm preparing for the C1 Exam at the end of the month; it's going to be a little tough. There are a lot of things on the exam that I already know I'm shit at (ie the things I missed on the placement test, which are a) verb collocations, b) prefixed verbs (wirken/auswirken, forschen/erforschen), and c) formal/business letter (email) writing. Considering that I'm shit at business writing in English and I've never learned it in German...), and I asked the teacher if we can practice them more. I *think* I'll pass, but I want to get as high a score as possible.

I'm working on scheduling a meeting with a professor at Uni Hamburg to talk about his research and maybe mine, see if he seems like a person I could work with for a few years and if he's even willing to consider me as a student. (There are other professors at other unis whose work I find interesting, based on their CVs & bios on the website. I'm just here at the moment.)

Anyway, it's time for me to write in my fancy paper journal. I should probably also finish my homework. (I just have to make some notes about whether I agree with a dude about some stuff and learn some vocabulary. I finished the rest.)

"They didn't stand a chance"

Jun. 11th, 2017 10:26 pm
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A Lesson in Logic (1102 words) by [archiveofourown.org profile] rosefox
Chapters: 1/1
Fandom: Original Work
Rating: General Audiences
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Characters: Original Characters
Additional Tags: Polyamory, Parenthood, Education
Summary:

Polyamorous parents have an unfair advantage at parent-teacher conferences.



I wrote this for All in the Family ([community profile] familyex), an exchange of family-themed stories; I didn't hear about it until it was too late to sign up, but saw a prompt about polyam parents and couldn't resist. It includes four Jewish parents (of varying backgrounds and degrees of belief, though I wasn't explicit about that), a Nigerian-American teacher, enby rep, wheelie rep, one very bad joke, and a little boy who likes sparkly erasers.

It's the first time in ages that I've written a fully original short story. I sort of snuck it past myself. :) It was lots of fun. I might try signing up for more exchanges that are open to original work and see what happens.
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SILVER MOON is going to be in print again! Release date is 6/16/17 and Terry Roy has done another amazing job on the interior. Seriously, this and Out of This World are some of the prettiest small press books I've ever seen (even if I do say so myself). I highly recommend her work!

The Pride Month StoryBundle is moving along nicely - it's raised over $500 in the first couple of days for Rainbow Railroad, a Canadian nonprofit that helps LGBTQ+ folks around the world escape persecution. We've got another 18 days to raise some more money though, as well getting some good books out in the world. Please check it out and boost if you're not inclined to buy (or even if you are!).

Apart from this, it's been a bit of a rough weekend. Back spasms that started on Friday afternoon, plus migraines and continued foot pain (I'm getting it checked out this week) and a truly hellacious storm front moving through town meant that I missed Equality March and Rally in St. Paul. The weather was bad enough that they called it on the March, but did hold the rally. It looked like fun but it's likely just as well as I stayed home. Overall, it's been a weekend of whittling away at the giant To-Do list; I'm thinking I need to look at carving out a weekend a month to work on stuff because it's the only way I'll make progress. We'll see if I can swing that.
Apart from that, I did get to go see Wonder Woman earlier this week and I loved it. Now to see if I can get one or two more things done before I fall asleep.





How Are You? (in Haiku)

Jun. 11th, 2017 08:17 am
jjhunter: Drawing of human J.J. in red and brown inks with steampunk goggle glasses (red J.J. inked)
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Pick a thing or two that sums up how you're doing today, this week, in general, and tell me about it in the 5-7-5 syllables of a haiku. I will leave anonymous comments screened unless otherwise asked; feel free to use this to leave private comments if that's what you're most comfortable with.

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Signal-boosting much appreciated!
rosefox: A blue-eyed white toddler with slightly curly hair stares straight at the camera like "Yep, I'm awesome". (kit)
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Well, Kit decided to grow up this week.

So much growing up )

I don't precisely feel superfluous as a parent, but I certainly need to let go of any idea that my job is to teach them how to grow up. They have a very good idea of how to grow up. My job is to get the hell out of their way.
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